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Default Jan 23, 2020 at 01:27 PM
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Lately work has been really tough. The early shift is really starting to mess with my sleep and my anxiety. Also the transition part is getting to me too. No one said anything to me today though. I am always being given the big boxes and they are physically too hard for me. I get all of them while my other coworkers get the smaller boxes. It’s really frustrating. I have no idea why this is happening. I called my therapist and she suggested I switch to a different store to start over. My mom says just go in there on Monday and explain everything. My transition, the hours being difficult, and getting stressed about having to do all the heavy boxes and see if we can work something out. I’ve been doing this a lot lately and I know I’m going to get in trouble if I don’t get it fixed. Can anyone offer any suggestions?

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I'm with your mom. At least with what I get from this post.

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Default Jan 23, 2020 at 03:32 PM
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Hi Mountaindewed,

The situation you describe seems so stressful and unhappy. Wish I had some advice for you, but even after wracking my brain, I can't think of anything. So sorry. I sure hope your work situation improves and soon! - Yaowen
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Default Jan 24, 2020 at 09:33 PM
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I also think addressing it up front is probably long-term, your best move. What they are doing is inappropriate and the sooner you get that on the record, the better.

Are you taking notes on everything that happens? You should. They don't have to be long, just a little something written regularly, so that, if you have to battle them, you will have a record.

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Default Jan 25, 2020 at 03:04 PM
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Hang in there. I am with your mom. You might want to go somewhere else as this place seems to always cause you problems
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Default Jan 26, 2020 at 11:25 AM
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I'm guessing you have to all take turns with early shifts? If that's not the case and you are able to ask for later shifts then you could do that.

The boxes thing. If you are being singled out and given bigger boxes you can't manage then that is clearly something that needs to change. If you have an injury or accident because of a heavy box you couldn't handle this could be serious- and not in their interest either.

Is there a responsible staff member who you can report this to safely?

My instincts would be to try to resolve before you leave but like others say maybe you should start looking elsewhere.

You mentioned your transitioning and I am unsure if that means you are being treated differently or unfairly in your workplace?
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Yes I am being singled out with the heavy boxes. It’s the supervisor who does it. One time someone else was filling in for her for a few minutes, and gave me a couple small boxes. When she came back she noticed the small boxes and replaced them with a couple big boxes. It’s just very overwhelming. My mom said maybe it’s an age issue but people younger then me are getting the smaller boxes. I am for sure being singled out for some reason.

I was going to go explain everything to a manager tomorrow.

I haven’t mentioned transitioning yet to anyone at work but I Will tomorrow.

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Default Jan 28, 2020 at 03:17 PM
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Today for some reason I was given the smaller boxes so maybe I’m just overreacting a bit or else they just decided to change things. But someone else complained about the big boxes and they ended up getting into it really badly with the supervisor. So I feel like it kind of makes me look good that I never complain about the big boxes. I was too nervous to talk to the manager about my transitioning. I saw her when I walked in and just froze. Everyone was really nice to me today. Maybe I just really need to try harder at this job before I give up.

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But I know I really do need to talk to them eventually.

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Default Jan 28, 2020 at 03:32 PM
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It must feel quite a big thing to talk about the transitioning. I am wondering if there are ways you can make it less overwhelming. Would it be possible to write it in a letter and possibly ask for a meeting. This would also give them a chance to think about it and be prepared.
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