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Default Mar 27, 2020 at 02:27 PM
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I like a coworker as a friend, but not romantically. She has shared some with me and I have shared some with her (I have probably overshared, she knows my MI DX for example and how long it's been since my last sui attempt). She's so nice to me though and she never yells at me.

So what is the problem right? Well, I find myself thinking about her at work, when I'm not at work, much like I would a friend, but she's my coworker and she is senior to me to make it worse. I've definitely put her on a pedestal--she can do no wrong and I'd probably do anything she asked me to do.


I think I think about her more than I do some of my other friends. We don't work in the same office, in fact we work on separate ends of the country. But we Skype, email, and text. We have met in person last year.


I just want to not think about her so much. I don't think it is impacting my work, its just that I don't spend this much time thinking about any of my other coworkers. I always want to make a good impression on her and I go out of my way to be especially kind and thoughtful. She seems to like me back but I don't know if as a friend or as a coworker.


All these emotions are so confusing for me and I don't know what to do with them! I just want to be a good employee and get along with everyone. But I think about her a lot.

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Default Mar 27, 2020 at 03:52 PM
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Dear SlumberKitty,

I can certainly identify with what you are going through. I went through something similar awhile back. Wish I had something useful to suggest but sadly I don't. The passing of time seemed to resolve things in my case although I was quite uncomfortable for quite awhile.

The human brain is so mysterious and seems to have a mind of its own sometime.

Hopefully people here who are more experienced, intelligent and wiser than I am will respond to your post with something helpful for you. So sorry you are going through all this. I hope everything eventually works itself out for you and results in the very best possible outcome!

Sincerely yours, -- Yao Wen
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