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Default Apr 28, 2020 at 06:14 AM
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It's been a month from hell for me at work and right now, I am completely burnt out from it all and wish something would give.

I've had several extra client meetings and extra work requests that have put me behind the 8 ball and behind in all of my work. Now my back is against the wall, trying to deliver work that is due this week, and I just cannot do it all. I am starting to crumble beneath the stress.

I am already feeling depressed because of the stay at home coronavirus order, and it's worse now because I am also feeling deeply depressed about work.

And it's not just these issues -- it's the ongoing issues with my boss undermining me, and me having to frequently stand up for myself with him.

And this month, my team Manager swooped in and scheduled a meeting with one of my clients, unbeknownst to me. I was the last to know about it, and it puts me into a very awkward position with my client now. My manager is basically coming in and is taking over the direction of my account because my client hasn't been doing great. We have a great relationship, but their success level has taken a downturn. Yes, I do need some help with the account, but I didn't know that our team manager's job involved actually taking over an account of ours, when we were all told he is to act as a "consultant" to the team. Does that mean scheduling client calls with our own clients without telling us???

I am still upset over that.

I am having a really hard time right now. Yesterday I took a half a day off because I was too depressed to work. I asked very last minute and said that I was having "personal issues".

Now this morning, I saw yet another additional client work request come in and I feel I am going to lose it. Once again, there goes my plans for this week's workload, and I have to readjust once again, and delay some of the work to another week.

I've applied for one job per week, and zero responses. I am sure that there is an application overload due to all the layoffs, but it's also depressing to not even receive one single response. I want to change jobs SO badly and need to. My job does not lift my morale, in fact, it does the opposite and lowers my morale greatly.

I feel very low right now. I don't know how I am going to get through this day, let alone this week.

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Default Apr 28, 2020 at 06:53 AM
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Is this business as usual for your managers? I wonder if they are 'over-managing' because of the global health situation. I have noticed that with my management. They are taking action that doesn't need to be taken. They are adding new temporary policies. They are micro-managing things that were left alone before.

My work motivation has been at zero the last weeks. I have been trying to make a game out of getting my work done, because I have deadlines I am supposed to meet and no motivation to work. One 'game' I am using today is I've made a spreadsheet of tasks for one project I need to make progress on and am forcing myself to clear the spreadsheet by doing each task as fast as possible. The work itself seems pointless, but challenging myself to get the tasks cleared gives me a small spark of motivation to get through it.
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Is this business as usual for your managers? I wonder if they are 'over-managing' because of the global health situation. I have noticed that with my management. They are taking action that doesn't need to be taken. They are adding new temporary policies. They are micro-managing things that were left alone before.

My work motivation has been at zero the last weeks. I have been trying to make a game out of getting my work done, because I have deadlines I am supposed to meet and no motivation to work. One 'game' I am using today is I've made a spreadsheet of tasks for one project I need to make progress on and am forcing myself to clear the spreadsheet by doing each task as fast as possible. The work itself seems pointless, but challenging myself to get the tasks cleared gives me a small spark of motivation to get through it.
Your game is a very clever one!!! I applaud you.

And thank you for your reply!

Yes, upper management is worried about certain clients leaving that are not doing well, so from that perspective the micro management does make a lot more sense. Thank you for reminding me of this.... it had slipped my mind to even consider. My own client is one such client they are worried will leave us or fire us. So I suppose that's probably why my team manager is stepping up and stepping in at this time. Eurkeka! lol.

I hear you on the lack of motivation to work. I am feeling the same exact way. it's SO hard right now, with all that's going on. I have to force myself to focus.

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It is so hard to be focused right now. I feel it is difficult to have so much going on and try to focus on specific job tasks. My mind keeps wandering to a bigger picture and reassessing my career and life choices. I have to pull myself back to work and try to get it done.

I hope work gets better for you!
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It is so hard to be focused right now. I feel it is difficult to have so much going on and try to focus on specific job tasks. My mind keeps wandering to a bigger picture and reassessing my career and life choices. I have to pull myself back to work and try to get it done.

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Thank you!!!

I am feeling the same way... it's very hard to focus. I am more so trying to get out of my job into a new one, and I'm very frustrated it hasn't happened yet. Naturally, due to the pandemic, I have to be patient, but my patience is wearing thin since I've been applying since early Jan.

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It does sound stressful. This working from home business is just taunting. My attempt to actually do my work is interrupted by endless mass emails. By the time you figure out it doesn’t even apply to you, you already wasted time reading 10 paragraphs.

I wouldn’t want to have no pay check but I almost envy people who don’t have to work right now at all.
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It does sound stressful. This working from home business is just taunting. My attempt to actually do my work is interrupted by endless mass emails. By the time you figure out it doesn’t even apply to you, you already wasted time reading 10 paragraphs.

I wouldn’t want to have no pay check but I almost envy people who don’t have to work right now at all.
Thanks, Divine. It is very stressful. My company constantly functions from a defensive and fearful position of potentially losing clients, which makes work that much more stressful and that much harder.

I have SO many emails in my inbox. I just ignore most of them, lol.

I envy people who were laid off and who can collect 100% of their salary right now. I wouldn't mind not working at this point in time. With full time work, plus working at home isolated, PLUS dealing with the stress of the pandemic... it's just too much.

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We are given more stuff to do every week. And then we have one incompetent colleague who acts like I am her mother. She emails me all day long asking for guidelines and directions. I refuse to give her my cell phone number because I’d see no end to it. Today she asked when are our weekly virtual staff meetings. They are both same time and day every week since we got closed up on March 12th. It’s been a month and a half.

We’ve been both working in the same place for 15 years, actually she’s been there for 16 years. Still all year every year she needs my guidance how to do things, how to do paper work, when things are due etc.

My friends at work laugh at me because this girl hates everyone else and they are off the hook with her lol I almost wish she hated me too lol
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We are given more stuff to do every week. And then we have one incompetent colleague who acts like I am her mother. She emails me all day long asking for guidelines and directions. I refuse to give her my cell phone number because I’d see no end to it. Today she asked when are our weekly virtual staff meetings. They are both same time and day every week since we got closed up on March 12th. It’s been a month and a half.

We’ve been both working in the same place for 15 years, actually she’s been there for 16 years. Still all year every year she needs my guidance how to do things, how to do paper work, when things are due etc.

My friends at work laugh at me because this girl hates everyone else and they are off the hook with her lol I almost wish she hated me too lol
OMG... that would drive me insane. On the flip side, seems like she must look up to you in some way... although it sounds very annoying to say the least.

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OMG... that would drive me insane. On the flip side, seems like she must look up to you in some way... although it sounds very annoying to say the least.
She is appreciative but she is unstable. It’s all good and dandy until something is not to her liking and she flips the switch.
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She is appreciative but she is unstable. It’s all good and dandy until something is not to her liking and she flips the switch.
UGH. What a nuisance to deal with!!!

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