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ShyGuy7462
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Age: 30
Male Single Self Diagnosed ASD/Aspergers( Very recent, still learning what this means) Possible Depression, Anxiety, and Low self-esteem. Education HS diploma. No plans of attending college. I've always done well in math but I am not good with words or writing and most classes/subjects require writing. I've never worked in one position for more than a year and I've never worked at one place without quitting/getting fired for more than 3 years( most of the time I've quit) What I am doing now gets me by for the moment. But I have no set career. I am not fond of what I am currently doing. I choose when and how often I work and I've been working less and less lately by choice. I am starting to consider looking into attending a trade school I still don't know much. I need to do more research. So far though nothing really stands out to me as to possible career choices. I don't really care about having a high paying job. My parents were cheap not well off and I've learned or have been conditioned to be low maintenance or my cost or way of living is low. Mainly I am looking for a career or steady income that I can live with. One where I wont quit or get fired from. Something that I would be comfortable doing. I am still trying to understand why I feel so uncomfortable in previous jobs and what led to me quitting. I don't like having to make decisions, I don't like working with people. I prefer to be told what to do or at least know what I need to do and how to do it. I am worried about going to a trade school and or getting a job and flaking out or quitting a few years in. I think in previous jobs I would feel a lot of anxiety about everything and uncertainty about how I am performing or what or how I should be doing. When I first start out I feel anxiety but it's ok because I am new and being new kind of softens the anxiety but after I've been doing something for sometime like a year that anxiety grows and I am not really new any more and I end up quitting or want to quit, stop caring, and get myself fired. I think maybe there is more to it than just anxiety but I am not able to identify all the problems yet. But this is something I will have to figure out. |
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you are wise to look within. just keep trying to figure things out. you are on the right path. best wishes to you.
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My brother is on the spectrum, in the old days it was called Asperger's.
He always meant to learn a trade, not interested in college, but one of the traits of an aspie can be to procrastinate making decisions because they seem overwhelming. So his 20s, 30s and 40s passed. He is 50 and washing dishes at a restaurant. My mother enabled him for years and then when she died, I inherited him. Give yourself a deadline of one year to pick a trade school and finish as soon as you can. If you don't you may never be able to support yourself. He has to live with me because he doesn't know how to do anything other than stocking or dishwashing and is resistant to any new experiences. I can't say I'm overjoyed that I have to support him. I don't know what he'll do when I die. He has no savings, no retirement, nothing. He has gotten and quit many jobs because he didn't like them or the people in charge changed or someone asked him to do something he didn't care for. Save yourself from that kind of life. |
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