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Default Aug 12, 2020 at 06:54 AM
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I am meeting my CEO for lunch today. I sooooooo wish I could be upfront and transparent with him about what happened with my boss. I wish I could say, you know, I know there were difficulties between me and my boss and perhaps that made it more difficult to keep me on or to promote me. BUT I CANNOT SAY ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't want to taint his glowing reference for me for any future job opportunities, and I don't want to indirectly be telling him that he wasn't entirely honest with me.

So I have to keep my mouth shut, brush everything under the rug and pretend that it wasn't an issue.

That sucks because I am SO honest and SO forthcoming. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. I hate pretending ,and I hate playing political games. But that's what this is.

I hope this goes well.

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Default Aug 20, 2020 at 06:41 PM
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Today I’ve been in bed. Guess I feel kind of depressed about this.

I thought my company was relatively ok and safe from possible layoffs.

It’s also quite the drastic change- to go from working with my colleagues every day for two years to suddenly being told you’re being let go and there’s no chance for goodbyes.

I texted a few co workers to say farewell last night. The only other female on my team was sad to see me go. She and I really got along. A female director offered me her reference, which was nice.

And my CEO said he can introduce me to some people for potential employment.

I know I wasn’t happy working there but it still stings. You work hard for a company, and it’s like a slap in the face.

I put on a good front when HR and the CEO told me they were letting me go. I remained very professional. I still wanted certain work I had done to be sent to my clients to wrap up. Even while being laid off I wanted to finish my work. Crazy.

I don’t know. It sucks, bottom line. So today I’m indulging and am staying in bed.
It is normal to feel this way. You just lost your job unexpectedly.
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It is normal to feel this way. You just lost your job unexpectedly.
Thank you @Buffy01. And sorry for the delayed response. I took a break from PC for a while.

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It's been nearly 2 months since I was laid off. I've been on unemployment benefits for one month. My severance pay lasted one month.

I've basically been taking a vacation while applying for at least 1 job per week. I've gone to the beach once a week, and I've collected myself. I needed some serious down time after my last work experience to bring my mental health back to a better level.

And I do feel better now. This time has been beneficial for me. For a while, I was scared to return to work right away due to my fear of facing yet another toxic work environment. And I was angry about what had happened at my last job.

Now I am ready to turn my attention more seriously to the job search. I may take some webinars to refresh my knowledge and skills - freebie ones, of course, because I have very little funds from unemployment.

I am ready to put my last job behind me and move on. So that's good. I am glad and grateful that I've had this time to regroup.

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Thank you @Buffy01. And sorry for the delayed response. I took a break from PC for a while.
That okay! I been taking breaks from pc to.
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Those breaks are important! Glad to hear you feel refreshed! Good luck with job search!
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Thanks! The time off has certainly helped.

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It’s great to see you have a positive attitude towards this and you’re using your free time to take good care of yourself. The relief in some of your posts is palpable. I really hope things work out for you!
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It’s great to see you have a positive attitude towards this and you’re using your free time to take good care of yourself. The relief in some of your posts is palpable. I really hope things work out for you!
Aw, thanks!!!

I am choosing to have a positive attitude about this, and it helps!

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