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Default Aug 20, 2020 at 02:15 AM
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My favorite career job was when I worked as a photographer. I was always behind the camera so I did not really have to interact. I was a stealth photographer when I worked in a hospital and needed to be kind of invisible. I also had to not faint while talking grisly photos.

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I think its a form of self protection. We really dont want people at work to know what is going on with us if its bad.
Yep totally agree. I know I wouldn't tell my coworkers about something that is upsetting me.
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My favorite career job was when I worked as a photographer. I was always behind the camera so I did not really have to interact. I was a stealth photographer when I worked in a hospital and needed to be kind of invisible. I also had to not faint while talking grisly photos.
Oh nice, that sounds cool.
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Default Dec 02, 2020 at 08:28 AM
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Does anyone else agree that being at work makes you behave in a way that you normally not act outside of work or, in general, have to act in a way that is not your true self? I know that there are boundaries and professionalism is expected at work, but I know some work environments make you practically change your personality for a certain number of hours each day.

Even at interviews, I'm sure everyone has given the interviewer an answer they want to hear. No one is going to admit a true personal weakness especially if it may hinder their ability of getting a job. And at work, you're basically expected to not show emotion or at least hide the fact that something is upsetting you. Nothing personal can be brought into the work place since it's seen as unprofessional.

I never tell my coworkers how I'm truly feeling. I don't trust them to begin with since they're very gossipy but when they ask me how things are, I always say very good. Similar to how you would never tell a stranger how you are truly feeling when they ask you out of obligation when starting a conversation, especially on the phone. I force myself to be more talkative at work when I need to be, even though outside of work I don't talk unless I'm approached by someone and they take the initiative to talk first. Also if I'm upset about something, even work related, I keep it to myself.

Also I've had friends admit that they act different at work too and that they would never want to see their coworkers outside of work and would never consider them friends. I wouldn't consider mine friends. Also I've heard a coworker tell someone that, while at work, she doesn't mind talking to coworkers, but outside of work, she wants nothing to do with anyone. Which I totally understand. Unfortunately work can be a very fake environment. Does anyone else feel like they have to be someone they're not while at work? It seems like this is the norm in the workplace.
I was in the EXACT SAME SITUATION with the previous position in my company. For 9 years. Every day felt like I had to be someone else. Or many different people! It was a customer service position in the medical field so I literally had to teeter the line of doing my job medically- which in itself people get upset over when they dont hear what they wanna hear- and making sure patient's were able to do the "customer is always right" crap even when they were wrong and stepped all over my feelings. That in itself cultivated a culture of identity crisis for me. But I also was a floor supervisor so now I had to manage my "coworker friends." I was never a hardass to them so I always wondered if they truly liked me and thought of me as a friend, or if they were just being cordial to their boss. So I wasnt sure how to act around them. It was the planet's lining up to make this toxic personality mess for me,personally. I found it affecting my mental health- literally having to prep myself to be someone else for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week- it was adding up and I could feel my tension rising. So I found another position in the company- non management but same pay and working from home.
Long story short- I TOTALLY get what you're saying. I've been there, you're not alone. It really sucks.
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I was in the EXACT SAME SITUATION with the previous position in my company. For 9 years. Every day felt like I had to be someone else. Or many different people! It was a customer service position in the medical field so I literally had to teeter the line of doing my job medically- which in itself people get upset over when they dont hear what they wanna hear- and making sure patient's were able to do the "customer is always right" crap even when they were wrong and stepped all over my feelings. That in itself cultivated a culture of identity crisis for me. But I also was a floor supervisor so now I had to manage my "coworker friends." I was never a hardass to them so I always wondered if they truly liked me and thought of me as a friend, or if they were just being cordial to their boss. So I wasnt sure how to act around them. It was the planet's lining up to make this toxic personality mess for me,personally. I found it affecting my mental health- literally having to prep myself to be someone else for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week- it was adding up and I could feel my tension rising. So I found another position in the company- non management but same pay and working from home.
Long story short- I TOTALLY get what you're saying. I've been there, you're not alone. It really sucks.
Oh wow, I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Glad you found something better for yourself. Yeah I hate preparing myself to be someone I’m not and not being able to trust my coworkers. They are the kind that will talk like they are best friends one day, even go on short walks during breaks, but then be talking crap behind each others back later on. I get that people can be judgmental but that extreme behavior is quite alarming in my opinion. Yeah trying to be someone to please others is exhausting. In fact, I dislike being around those at work enough that I actually like doing things remote, it is easier.
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Default Dec 04, 2020 at 12:41 PM
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When professional, we have to be less jokey and more serious. I am the same as you and your friends. My peronality does change i just come across more serious.
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When professional, we have to be less jokey and more serious. I am the same as you and your friends. My peronality does change i just come across more serious.
Yeah true, same for me.
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