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#41
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I only dated one guy from work but I was 22 and working at a ski resort. He was my boss. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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My husband thought it was weird that he asked me to lunch. Then wasn’t shocked when he hit on me. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#43
I think what bothers me is there was a power imbalance- I'll explain. You need a stellar reference- and he knows this. There is a pandemic going on and all jobs are now no longer guaranteed and the economy took a dump. In regular circumstances you would want a good reference but in these circumstances you NEED a good reference in order to recover. Add that to the fact that he has some basic info about your marriage issues. So I think he thought that you would be receptive to anything. I am not saying he is holding your reference hostage on the basis of you having an affair with him but he knows that this reference will be essential to your employment. It may not have been a total quid pro quo but sort of a passive aggressive way to test the waters.
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He knows I need his reference. I know he will still give me a very positive reference, even though I rejected him. And when he hit on me, I wasn't confrontational about it. All I said was my husband wouldn't approve or appreciate my going to the CEO's cottage. The whole situation just stinks. I don't like it. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Have Hope, what kind of work relationship did you have with this CEO? Were you two always very personal with each other? Did he mistake your personal disclosure about your marriage problems as you inviting him to have an affair? I am trying to understand why you would go so far as to confide in your company's CEO about your marriage problems, instead of just keeping that information to yourself?
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__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Aug 18, 2020 at 06:12 AM.. |
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#47
I guess I just need more clarity on why you created multiple threads about your CEO. Do you have feelings for him?
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#48
I do not have multiple threads about my CEO, Motts. I have a few threads going about various work issues I faced at this company. This is the only thread I have about my CEO specifically. I never had feelings for him. You are reading the entire situation incorrectly. Again, I encourage you to read each of my posts in this thread about the CEO.
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#50
“Months and months ago, my desk moved across the room, so I no longer sat in close proximity to his office and that meant that he stopped coming by my desk to casually chit chat.”
^ Maybe someone was threatened by this fraternizing between you two. Who was responsible for moving you? __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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#52
It’s kinda funny how I’ll go over it in my brain to try to find connections to actions and reactions over your experience. . Maybe none of it means anything. I draw conclusions like maybe your CEO was interested in you from back then and moved you to avoid temptation which eventually led to him going for it and hitting you up for an affair after there would be no repercussions due to employee relationship. But— maybe it was all just random and he hit on you because he’s just a dirty dog.
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#53
Hopefully your husband didn't get upset. That would be a good trait if he was honest enough to talk to you about it but also keep his ego in check.
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He made a move because he is a sleazebag and saw an opportunity. He grabbed it. If he misinterpreted me in any way, that's his fault and is on him -- it's not my fault and it's not on me. Your post puts me on the defensive. I am going to ask admin to close this thread now. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Aug 19, 2020 at 08:00 AM.. |
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