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Default Nov 20, 2020 at 01:50 PM
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I'm responsible for this software project at work. It's a big project, but I'm basically the only one working on it. There have been a lot of different things that needed to be figured out for it, a lot of which are outside of my expertise. So I've been pretty depressed and discouraged, trying to figure out the IT side, the networks side, the graphical side, the database side, the backend, etc. These past two weeks finally, I got the server up and running (which I had to write from scratch) and got a lot of the database code finally in place. I knew I would have to tell my boss the "good news" but didn't really want to because even though this project is a huge source of funding for the group--he just doesn't care. He's rarely interested in talking about the project in a constructive way. He's only interested some very specific parts of it, but at the same time, he's destructively meddlesome. And I also knew that no matter what, he'd tell me that the way I was doing things is wrong--that he wants the database to work like this, or the networks to work like this, etc.

Nevertheless, I brought it up, vaguely, to let him know where things stand and because I want to start incorporating more backend code. And suddenly out of nowhere, he starts talking about how maybe the whole thing should be reimplemented in python. And it's like--if he wanted python, he should have said that a year ago. Finally the database is sort of working and the socket programming is working and we've got the beginnings of our server, and out of nowhere, he thinks *maybe* things should be redone in python. The whole thing has been done in C++.

I told him we can reimplement sometime next year, but with a progress report deadline so close, we just can't start reimplementing right now. And he was fine with it. But I feel totally shattered. It just feels like in this group, there have been tons of people who do nothing. They don't even show up to work, or they come to the office but just goof off on the internet all day, and my boss lets them be. I already have zero confidence when it comes to this project. Facing it everyday is like a waking nightmare. Finally it felt like I'd made some real progress and maybe things would start looking up. But with his random desire to recode in python, it feels like all that work was pointless, and that I'd be in the exact same boat if I'd just been doing nothing all day.
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Heart Nov 20, 2020 at 01:57 PM
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I get it. I haven't been on here in awhile, but just found out we have to put the dog down due to cancer. Working from home with lots of demands over the phone, I feel like I'm the only one working on these projects too. The crying spells about losing my dog don't help at all. I feel like quitting sometimes. Please hang in there an know that you are not alone.

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Default Nov 22, 2020 at 11:57 AM
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I hear your frustrations and upset. You are all alone with this project, and without support from your boss. He sounds very hands off and clueless about the amount of work you've put into it, and about how much positive progress you've made. I can understand feeling deflated after he wanted to switch to Python. Please be proud of your own progress despite your boss's lack of acknowledgement, though. You don't need his affirmations to know you've done a great job all on your own figuring out this huge project. On the bright side, at least he listened to your guidance about the reimplementation in Python. That means he must trust your judgement. He is just clueless, and you're left to figure it out yourself.

i also understand your frustrations about your coworkers and the management of your group. You sound like you are very dedicated and hard working. It's so hard to be the one person in a group working hard and to not only have that go unnoticed and unacknowledged, but then to have the slackers excused for not working.

In my last job, it was very similar to yours. I was the hardest working on my whole team and everyone else goofed off all day long, including my boss. No one above cared how hard I worked or if I was the one shining star in the department pulling in the most success with our clients. I still got let go because my boss was threatened by my skills, and because the upper management rewarded and retained the slackers and liars vs the ethical, honest and hard working employees.

It's unfair and not right. I feel your pain. Hang in there, and hold onto any positives you can find. You are doing a great job learning and figuring out this project all by yourself.

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Default Nov 25, 2020 at 11:21 AM
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Thank you to all who responded/read this post. I'm feeling better about things now. I went over the project last night with my boss and he was more helpful and engaged and less random. I respect him a lot so I always try to do things his way. I need to learn to take him less seriously. I also need to keep him more engaged in my work--but not TOO close either, because then he becomes a total control freak. As of last night, I've got code that does all of the functions I dreaded figuring out the most and am hopeful that things will be a bit smoother from now on. Yay!
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Default Dec 04, 2020 at 12:48 PM
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You have to tell your boss your concerns. Bring them to his attention.
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